Step 4: Relate
Build resilient loving bonds
At this stage, you will feel lighter, happier and more at peace with yourself. The need to perform or prove yourself is replaced by you more fully being and doing you. At this point, you could happily retire if it were not for the other people who trigger exiled parts or test the limit of your love and compassion. Use these moments to get to know and transform more of your parts with individual online Internal Family Systems (IFS) sessions.
Self-compassion helps us come into our heart energy and to stay there when we are in relationship. This is a dynamic dance of losing our centre and cool and then consciously regaining our balance, poise and perspective only to lose it again! As we own more of our parts triggered uniquely in relationships, we eventually “make partners” as true equals and are free to choose how and with whom to relate. Learn mor in my book Let Love in.
We can train to build resilient and satisfying relationship on the foundation of good will and personal accountability. We can level up our love relationships and wider communities by learning to hold space for each other to heal and be healed, to debate differing opinions and to co-create and innovate. You and your partner can learn how to level up your love in my IFS for couple sessions called Intimacy from the Inside Out.
